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Thom Hartmann

The nation's #1 progressive radio talk show host and the New York Times bestselling, 4-times Project Censored winning author of 21 books in print. In its eighth year, The Thom Hartmann Program  airs live daily, NOON – 3pm, ET simulcast as both radio and TV on over 120 radio stations. into more than 50 million homes via both nationwide satellite TV systems (DirecTV and Dish Network). http://www.thomhartmann.com

What happened to my daughter?

A young girl of 10 gallops into the kitchen to greet her mother: “It was awesome!  I scored three goals today. It felt great! What's for dinner? I can't wait to tell you about my day. Can Ashley and Sienna come over for dinner? I want them to see my new hamster. Maybe you can help us with our homework later ...”

Four years later the front door slams as the same girl runs up the stairs to avoid her mother. Her mother yells up: “Kathi, what's going on? You said we would spend some time together this afternoon. At least come down and say hello.” No response. Mom wonders what happened to the energetic, curious, considerate daughter she used to have.

Does this scenario sound familiar? What happens to make girls, as they enter adolescence, transformed from giggling, happy, talkative, cooperative and joyful young people into sullen, secretive, image and peer obsessed teens?

Today's culture presents a different world to our children than that of 20 years ago. Our world has become smaller as the internet and phones universalize the teen experience. Teens turn to their peers for information: after all, someone else's opinion is there at the touch of a few keys. My Space, IM'ing, texting, tweeting, all have allowed instant public opinion and the accompanying (unsolicited) advice to replace what used to be given by family and close friends. This produces a culture of conflicting expectations. And what are those expectations? A teenage girl should be a fashion-conscious model: beautiful, skinny, made up, with piercings, tattoos, and the appropriately chic grungy clothing. She should be the same as others, but not too much the same; after all she needs to be an independent individual who keeps up with what's cool. She gets her information from peers about sex, substance use, and what is important and what is not, yet she should be her own person and make her own decisions. Her reality is not what is in front of her, but what she hears on her MP3 player, or sees on the screen of her phone. Her sense of self and power no longer seems to come from inside, but from the constant bombardment of rapidly changing and chaotic outside influence.

Add all this to our culture's expectation that women be super people, nurturers, homemakers, mothers, breadwinners, and it is not surprising how confused and lost they become.

Mary Pipher states in her book, Reviving Ophelia, Saving the Selves of Adolescent Girls, “Adolescent girls experience a conflict between their autonomous selves and their need to be feminine, between their status as human beings and their vocation as females.” She continues “They struggle with adolescent questions still unresolved: How important are looks and popularity? How do I care for myself and not be selfish? How can I be honest and still be loved? How can I achieve and not threaten others? How can I be sexual and not a sex object? How can I be responsive but not responsible for everyone.” Alice Miller, author of the Drama of the Gifted Child, believes that adolescent girls give up their authentic, natural self, and develop a false self whose validation comes from outside. 

Many of the women I see as a therapist continue to struggle with these questions as they deal with the existential questions of authenticity and meaning. Who am I within the context of individual, couple, family, and community? How do I meet my needs for connection and validation while retaining my sense of self?

How do women resolve this struggle? Margaret Meade defined strength as valuing all those parts of the self whether they are valued by the culture or not. This is a daunting task as evidenced by the number of women I see every day whose experience vacillates between their pre-adolescent competent and connected self, and their adolescent self-conscious, self-critical, and other-pleasing self. The technological innovations of the past 20 years seem to universalize behaviors and engender a stronger false sense of self than what is authentic. The key is to rediscover and encourage that 10 year-old girl whose curiosity, personality, and relationship to the world come from inside.

What can be done to facilitate a healthy transition into womanhood? 1. Be aware of the internal struggle and the cultural influences that are in play. 2. Don't forget there is still a little girl inside who needs and craves care and nurturing despite the tough exterior. 3. Watch for signs of extreme or destructive behavior but refrain from criticizing or judging when things aren't going well. 4. Be supportive, allow age-appropriate independence and assertiveness. And 5. Encourage open communication and trust.

Tom Stein is a Marriage and Family Therapist Intern in private practice. He specializes in teens and women who have experienced trauma, using EMDR.

 

Take a Chance at BellyDance

Over the past few years from the attendance at the Tribal Fusion Festival it is obvious that BellyDance rates high in SLO County. Now available at Bali Isle in downtown SLO are BellyDance classes for beginners and more advanced.  For those that want to know a little more, or want to try it out for the first time, the doors are open on Tuesday and Wednesday to all.  Here’s little bit abou the classes from the teachers.
Amy Harway:
The class I’m teaching at Bali Isle on Tuesday nights is called Tribal 101~Bellydance Basics. It’s a drop-in class, so you don’t have to know the previous week’s sequence to learn the steps that are being presented that night. It’s based on the format developed by my teacher and mentor, Kajira Djoumahna, known as Black Sheep Bellydance style, a form of ATS, or American Tribal Style. American Tribal Style is recognizable by its lead-and-follow style, where head, hand and vocal cues are used to signal a change in step or direction, moving all the dancers together, like a school of fish. Learning American Tribal style is like learning a language. When you know ATS, you can dance ATS with other ATS groups anywhere you go, and dance in perfectly synchronized harmony, with no rehearsal. It’s like a magic trick!
Bellydance is a fun way to get fit, and is a gentle exercise that anyone can start at any age. That is not to say that it is not aerobic nor vigorous, it is! You can break a sweat bellydancing, but it can be done in such a way as to not hurt the knees, back or neck.
Amy Gray:
Tribal fusion is a movement that emerged in the 1990s, originally expanding on the American Tribal Style vocabulary, then going on to incorporate movements and rhythms from hip-hop and establishing its own costuming and musical identity. Now, as the scene has truly begun to flourish, Tribal Fusion dancers can be seen drawing on anything from modern dance to mime to flamenco to Fosse in their performances. My class covers a thorough breakdown of the basic tribal fusion vocabulary while drawing on principles and exercises from Anusara and Vinyasa yoga in order to help students build a better awareness of and relationship with their bodies. As the class progresses, learned movements will be combined into more complex combinations. Experienced and inexperienced dancers of all ages and backgrounds are welcome to join in and drop-ins are welcome. Each class is tailored to fit whoever is present for that night.
I have been studying dance for eighteen years and have a background that includes ballet, hip-hop, jazz and modern dance in addition to my studies in tribal fusion, ATS and yoga. I studied tribal fusion with Donna Mejia a renowned innovator and friend and former student of Rachel Brice. Locally, I also dedicate huge amounts of time to dancing with Ballet Theatre San Luis Obispo, located just upstairs of Bali Isle.

Lifeline: The Acholi Beads Story

Colorful beads dangle like tropical fish on a line, spinning and wriggling in a store front window display. Some necklaces have a simple color scheme, separated by tiny black spacing beads, allowing the eye to travel its path and carry its own rhythm, while others are multi-color and wild, inviting a song or celebratory dance of life. These are the Acholi Beads; their story is as individual and unique as their style.

For over 22 years, Uganda has borne the brunt of casualties in an ongoing civil war. While war has touched and taken thousands, many more have been displaced while running for safety with their families and meager belongings. As a result the Acholi Tribe was relegated to a hillside slum just outside of Uganda’s capital, lovingly named the “Acholi Quarters”. 

The only way women could earn a living, to care for their families and the war orphans they had taken on, was laboring in a rock quarry, crushing rocks for $1 per day (the international standard for Extreme Poverty). This is a dangerous place for anyone. It was particularly hard on the women who watched their children, high up on the cliffs, as they shoulder load after load of rocks back and forth.
By fate or chance, a young man named James Pearson was working with the Acholi Tribe as well as Child Soldiers. He saw the beautiful beads the women had created by using recycled strips of colorful newspaper and thought they would be an original gift. He bought some for his family back in San Diego, California as a Christmas gift and a new market was born!

Today, the Acholi Women have their own legal cooperative to manage their successful jewelry business. They earn a professional wage making Acholi Beads and work from the comfort of their homes, or together in common areas, with their children safely around them. The Acholi Beads cooperative provides training for managing personal finances for long-term success, budgeting, savings, entrepreneurship, and microfinance training. The goal is to build upon independent success, with or without Acholi Beads, for their own future and the future of their family.

Another added benefit to this new business dynamic is the new respect the Acholi women have received from their husbands and the men in the Acholi Quarters. They too have learned about financial development and as a partial result, domestic violence has decreased dramatically, while personal satisfaction has increased dramatically! It has been said for every new Acholi Partner taken on, 20 lives are enriched. This is due to the fact that a woman who earns will share and take care of her children, her parents, her grandparents, and put money back into the community. Business is the most powerful force for economic development the world has ever known. Acholi Beads is putting the power of their own destiny back into their own loving hands; one careful bead at a time.

 To purchase Acholi Beads or to book an Acholi Bead Holiday Party, pleas^e contact Adaire at (805) 709-6721. Or seek out your favorite local source. This also builds our local economy by empowering the women and men that live here.

Getting to the Marrow

of El Dia de Los Muertos

Oct 31, Nov 1 & Nov 2

While Americans gear up for Halloween with coma-inducing sugar confections, Pagans celebrate Samhain with Apples and spiced wine, Mexicans will be celebrating “Day of the Dead” or El Dia de Los Muertos, October 31 through November 2 with “Calaveras”, or sugar skulls.  Somewhere along the line, we learned the Dead like to be enticed with sweetness, to remind them of what they are missing on the other side.

In honor of this folkloric festival, Bali Isle will host a 3-day Mexican sugar skulls workshop. Created to honor loved ones, the 3-day workshop will be led by Susana Harris who discovered calaveras on Olvera Street in old Los Angeles. Materials will be provided; attendees are encouraged to bring personal trinkets and treasures from loved ones that have passed. This workshop is geared for teens through adults as a way to connect and celebrate their loved ones lives in a Mexican Indigenous folkloric fashion. Workshop hours are noon to 3 p.m. on Saturday, Oct. 31 and Sunday, Nov. 1 and at 6 p.m. on Monday, Nov. 2. Requested donation $5 per class.
Before Spain and Catholicism, the indigenous people of Mexico viewed death not as an end to be mourned, but as another opening and awakening to the real celestial party going on! The Day of the Dead actually lasted over a month, and was celebrated with Calveras de Azucar (or Sugar Skulls) “sempasuchil” or seasonal flowers for the grave, and all the foods, drinks, and trinkets the dead treasured in life. When the Spanish Conquistadors came they attempted, in vain, to drive these pagan practices underground; eventually they Christianized the holiday and moved the celebration to match with All Saints Day and All Souls Day on November 2nd.
Today, the celebration reaches across borders and can be celebrated by everyone. African Americans incorporated dance into the celebration, while Mexican Americans brought graveyard parties with birthday cakes and balloons. The opportunity to turn passive grieving into active joy for those that have transcended this world is offered during a time when many ancient cultures believe the veils are the thinnest between worlds and direct communication is at its peak.
Susana Harris, a 44-year-old creative breath of fantastical celebration, is the inspiration behind bringing the Sugar Skull class to San Luis Obispo. Born in L.A., Harris moved to Mexico at age 15 where she attended the Art Institute of San Luis Potosi’, Mexico.
In L.A., on Olvera Street, Harris found the folkloric Sugar Skulls and soon incorporated these as another avenue of her creativity. In addition to creating these works of art, Harris owns her own custom soap making company and works with multiple mediums for her art.
For class information call Bali Isle 544

Lovely Hula Girls with Swaying Hips –

Hula, beyond the coconut bra!

Part two of two

When King Kamehameha I died, his son and heir to the throne, Liholiho Kamehameha II, was a young, weak-willed, 24-year -old. With incredible boldness, Queen Ka’ahumanu, the favorite wife of newly deceased Kamehameha I, proclaimed that she was to share the reign with Liholiho, who did not object. Ka’ahumanu was intelligent, assertive, and craved power at a time when Hawaiian women were second class citizens with endless kapus which severely handicapped a smart, ambitious queen.
Ten days had passed since the death of King Kamehameha I, and kapu had not been reinstated. The Queen Regent Ka’ahumanu and Kamehameha II’s mother, Keopuolani, (King Kamehameha I had five wives), convinced Kamehameha II to sit and eat with the women at a public banquet. The astonished Hawaiians, and visiting foreigners, saw him sit and eat with the women, breaking one of the most serious kapu. He proclaimed ‘ai noa, or “free eating”, and amazingly was not struck down by angry gods. At that precise moment the entire kapu system lost its power.
With Kamehameha II’s failure to reinstate kapu as the new king, coupled with his sanctioned mixing of sexes at the banquet, Hawaiian society was in upheaval and “ripe for conversion” when the Puritanical Christian missionaries, with their own rigid “kapu” system, touched the sand just six months later.
Not wanting to give up drinking, or four of his five wives, Kamehameha II did not convert to Christianity, but Queen Regent Ka’ahumanu did wholeheartedly. After ten more years of considerable missionary influence, in 1830, it was Queen Regent Ka’ahumanu who issued an edict banning public hula performances, among other “heathen” practices. The law was widely ignored in the rural populations and when Ka’ahumanu died two years later, the ban, though not formally rescinded, was essentially forgotten. But in the years following, political pressure from the Hawaiian Evangelical Society sought to destroy the “lascivious” hula through expensive licensing laws, penal punishment, and performance prohibitions outside of Honolulu. Unable to completely suppress hula, they were successful in insisting female dancers wear high neck gowns with long sleeves. The law was formally repealed in 1896, three years after the overthrow of Hawaii’s last monarch, Queen Liliuokalani.
Although several monarchs attempted to keep hula alive in spite of the missionaries, it was King David Kalakaua, reigning from 1874 to1891, also known as the “merry monarch”, who successfully encouraged the return of traditional Hawaiian cultural arts, evidenced by the 262 hula performances at his coronation, 30 of which were of the hula ku’i, a new style with Hawaiian poetry, dance movements, and costumes combined with the traditional chants accompanied by the ipu (gourd drum).
Hula continued to change in the following decades, with kahiko hula almost extinguished. The later part of the 19th century saw the mele hula (poetry with dance) accompanied by the Portuguese braguinha (ukulele) and the Spanish vaqueros’ guitar. Along with the Hawaiian slack key and steel guitar, these instruments provide the signature melodies that accompany the more “modern” hula - auana hula.
Auana hula, with its guitar and ukulele accompaniment has more hip sway and poetic hand movements, along with English lyrics, although Hawaiian lyrics are returning in popularity. In hula, kahiko and auana, the hands, face, body movements, feet and voice of the dancer all play a vital part in the message of the dance. Hand motions mimic the swaying coconut trees, the rolling seas, waves, the moon, etc. A good hula dancer watches her hands as they tell the story, not the audience, though newer auana hula will engage more audience eye contact.
Costuming for hula is important. Pa’u skirts, originally made of bark cloth, were worn by both men and women. Now pa’u skirts are also made of woven cloth. Women wear tops, usually made of woven cloth.  Lei encircle necks and heads, while kupe’e decorate wrists and ankles. Both are made of plants, flowers, shells, feathers, etc. depending on the deity honored in the dance. Some kupe’e materials, i.e., shells, create sounds to enhance the dance. The colors and patterns of the costumes also convey information on the deity honored.
After early Hollywood’s fantasy with Hawaii, and it’s degradation of the spirituality of hula in general (what male came up with coconut bras?), a resurgence of  Hawaiian pride and culture saw a return of kahiko hula in the 1960s.
In honor of King Kalakaua and to showcase Hawaiian hula – both kahiko and auana- the Merrie Monarch Festival premiered in 1964. This week-long, invitation only, competition begins annually on Easter Sunday. Contestants are required to present judges with fact sheets detailing their research and reason for their chosen hula, as well as wear costumes fitting the time period portrayed in the chant or dance. 
Hula has always been a beautiful dance, but my time spent researching its origins has brought me, a haole (foreign, non-Hawaiian) girl, a richer, deeper, understanding of Hawaiian history and culture. As a non-Hawaiian haumana, I am feeling the story through the music or chant; “telling” the story through my hands and body; and above all, allowing myself a connection to a proud, ancient, beautiful, warrior society that honored the earth, the ocean, and all that make our one world.
‘A’ohe I pau ka ‘ike I ka halau ho’okahi
(All knowledge is not contained in only one school)
Locally, the halau hula, Na Mele O Ke Kai (Songs of the Sea), holds classes for beginners to advanced students. More information at www.hulaslo.org

 

International Peace Day September 21

The International Day of Peace (“Peace Day”) provides an opportunity for individuals, organizations and nations to create practical acts of peace on a shared date. It was established by a United Nations resolution in 1981 to coincide with the opening of the General Assembly. The first Peace Day was celebrated in September 1982.

In 2002 the General Assembly officially declared September 21 as the permanent date for the International Day of Peace.

By creating the International Day of Peace, the UN devoted itself to worldwide peace and encouraged all of mankind to work in cooperation for this goal. During the discussion of the U.N. Resolution that established the International Day of Peace, it was suggested that:
"Peace Day should be devoted to commemorating and strengthening the ideals of peace both within and among all nations and peoples…This day will serve as a reminder to all peoples that our organization, with all its limitations, is a living instrument in the service of peace and should serve all of us here within the organization as a constantly pealing bell reminding us that our permanent commitment, above all interests or differences of any kind, is to peace.”

Since its inception, Peace Day has marked our personal and planetary progress toward peace. It has grown to include millions of people in all parts of the world, and each year events are organized to commemorate and celebrate this day. Events range in scale from private gatherings to public concerts and forums where hundreds of thousands of people participate.

Anyone, anywhere can celebrate Peace Day. It can be as simple as lighting a candle at noon, or just sitting in silent meditation. Or it can involve getting your co-workers, organization, community or government engaged in a large event. The impact if millions of people in all parts of the world, coming together for one day of peace, is immense.

International Day of Peace is also a Day of Ceasefire – personal or political. Take this opportunity to make peace in your own relationships as well as impact the larger conflicts of our time. Imagine what a whole Day of Ceasefire would mean to humankind.

For local on International Peace Day activities visit the Information Press website: www.informationpress.net or call the office (805) 545-7916.